What’s in a Name?

Monday , 26, September 2011 6 Comments

Whew!  Baby shower weekend is over, and was a huge success. (More posts on that later!)  One thing that came up at my shower is that this baby does not yet have a name. One of the games we played involved guests creating names using the letters from mine and my husbands name, and Wow!  I was impressed and surprised at all the options the ladies came up with.  I don’t think we’ll be naming our son ‘Pilot’ or ‘Ned’, but it is nice to know that there are lots of options

At first, I thought that we would find out the gender, and shortly after that, decide on a name.  Well, we found out at 16 weeks that he is a he, and at nearly 35 weeks, we still have not decided what he will be called.

And, I am ok with it.  There were a few weeks where it was driving me crazy that I didn’t know the name of the little thing growing inside me. At first I felt like a bad parent for not knowing his name, but as time went on, I became comfortable with not knowing for sure what his name is.

Its not like we haven’t thought about it.  My husband and I have had a number of conversations about names that we like, and ones that we don’t like.  We have a couple that we both like, so It is likely that his name will end up being one of those. But, we’re also not ruling out other options at this point.

My personal criteria for a name include:

1.  Must be a gender specific name. This is a tough one, considering that many traditionally ‘male’ names are now being used as ‘female’ names.

2.  Must not  be the name of a close family member.

3.  I would like for it to be a little ‘unique’ considering we have one of the most common last names in the country.

4.  I would like for it to not be ‘popular’, but this one is difficult to gauge.

I guess I’m not that worried about it because it turns out that my husband and I like a lot of the same names, or at least the same types of names.  One of the places we drew inspiration from was a ‘family tree’ type book of names from my husband’s side of the family.

We will probably take our short list of favorites with us to the delivery room, and after he is born, we’ll size him up and make the final decision.

What do you think Mamas?  When did you decide on a name for your little one?  What were your criteria?  What resources did you use to figure it out? 

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  • Myaela says:

    We decided to wait to name our son until after he was born, so we could see what he looked like. We created a list of names (both first and middle) and brought it with us to the hospital. And honestly, it took us over 24 hours to decide on what to name him. But when we actually took the time to sit down and really talk about it, it took us less than 20 minutes to decide on what to name him. Don’t worry too much; it’ll fall into place =)

    We also didn’t want a name that was TOO popular; we ended up nixing one of the names we liked about 2 weeks before I delivered because it was just too popular. We used a first name we liked and a family name for his middle name. I went through a lot of baby name sites (one cool site was the census stuff; I could look up the most popular baby names for a given year and browse through them. It was cool to see how it’d changed over the years) and found names I liked and then my husband got rid of the ones he didn’t like.

    • Rachel says:

      Isn’t it difficult to choose a name that isn’t popular? I’m kinda stressing about this. I have heard a lot of moms say that the name they chose wasn’t popular until they named their child, and then all of a sudden everyone was using that name. I guess we’ll see!!

  • Zack says:

    I don’t know why you’re fighting it. You’re gonna name him Bartholomew…. Just accept it…..

  • Don’t worry about not knowing the name — you’ll figure it out when it’s time!

    We didn’t know the baby’s sex ahead of time, so we had a list of about 7-8 boy names and 7-8 girl names, but we forgot to bring the list when we transferred to the hospital. Our little guy started off as Baby Boy Brown.

    Once we had the list in hand, two names jumped out at me, and then Matthew said, “What about Gabriel?” — a name that wasn’t on our list at all! We played around with options a bit, but did finally settle on Gabriel when he was 3 days old.

    I wasn’t anxious about not having a name, but it did get slightly annoying when various hospital staff would come in and ask his name.

    • Rachel says:

      Wow, 3 days! Good for you though on being patient and finding the right name. I already feel silly when people ask me what is name is and i reply with ” we don’t know yet” I could also follow that with ” and if we did, we wouldn’t tell you” too harsh?

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