No, I’m not talking about Moms of Preschoolers, or MOMS Club. I’m not even talking about a group that you met on Facebook, or Meetup.com. I’m talking about a more unofficial type of club. Like the ‘Cloth Diaper’ club, or the ‘Working Mom’ club. You know what I mean. Many times, we don’t have control over the clubs to which we belong. I would rather not be member of the ‘my child spent time in the NICU’ club, or the ‘I have suffered a miscarriage’ club, but I am. And sometimes when I meet another mom that is also a member of those clubs, I find immediate comfort in that common bond.
Other times, our club membership is by choice. The way we choose to give birth, feed our children, how we decide to educate them….all of these choices allow us membership to different clubs.
A couple months ago, I attended a mommy blogger event, where I was surrounded by all kinds of moms. Some were wearing their babies, some were pushing them in strollers, some (including me) left their babies at home. As we were mingling before the event began, I inserted myself into a conversation about cloth diapering that a couple of the moms were having, because, you know, I cloth diaper too…I am part of that club. Or so I thought. Come to find out there are different types of cloth diaper clubs and I was definitely out of my territory. Who knew? My ego was a bit deflated. I mean, I know there are different types of cloth diapers, but can’t we all get along?
When hanging out with different moms, it is inevitable that you won’t belong to all of the same clubs. In my experience, most ladies are pretty good at playing nice. At what point does different club membership become a problem? Which club similarities are the most important? Can a ‘natural birth’ club mamma be best friends with a ‘give me the epidural ASAP’ club mamma?
What memberships do you hold? Does your close circle of friends need to have similar memberships?by