Lately, I have fallen victim to the ultimate mom problem: finding time for everything I want/need/have to do. Granted, it is incredibly difficult when you’re going at it alone, but no matter, we all find ourselves wondering “where did the whole day go?”. I know I’m not alone in this issue so I thought writing about it would be helpful for myself but also for others.
In our household, we have just about the same schedule every week. Monday-Thursday we get up and I get the monkeys ready for school. After I drop them off, I work for a few hours until it’s time to go get them. We return home, I feed the biggest monkey some lunch and put her down for a nap. The little monkey eats when he starts to fuss and if I’m lucky naps with the big monkey. If not, I let him jump, play, etc while I continue to work. I am desperately trying to get him on a schedule but no luck thus far. After the big monkey’s nap, we may play outside for a little bit or I let the kids play in the room while I finish up work. I usually start making dinner around 4:30. We eat around 5 and then head to the gym. On Wednesdays, I don’t cook and instead run to the grocery store and then to church for potluck supper and bible study. By the time we get home from the gym or church, we start winding down and get ready for bed. The big monkey usually goes to bed between 7-8 and since the little monkey won’t sleep without me, we usually cuddle in to bed not too much later. This schedule doesn’t sound crazy but it sure feels crazy. I wish I could just spend the majority of my day playing with the kids. I feel like I spend too little time just sitting with them or exploring outside with them.
The weekends tend to be a bit less hectic, but we always have things to do. I usually do all of our laundry on the weekends. We visit family, do any necessary shopping, attend church and Sunday school, and try to do fun things like the park. I hope to do more outside with them as the weather gets nicer.
My biggest problems in our schedule are like I said, feeling like I’ve spent adequate time just enjoying my children; having time to do little things for myself like shower, paint my nails, etc.; and getting the little monkey to follow a set schedule (and if we’re on the topic, I’d really like to sleep alone–his kicks are brutal).
There are some things that I have learned with our schedule. I have learned that the more I keep things the same, the easier they get. Also, sometimes I have to be creative about how I do things. It is so difficult grocery shopping with a toddler and an infant all by yourself. I have tried it multiple ways and I promise none of them are easy. I try to not get upset with myself if something doesn’t pan out. If we don’t make the gym on Thursday, it’s not the end of the world!
Do you have any tips on how to effectively manage time as a mama?by