The Naked Truth

Monday , 18, February 2013 4 Comments

How do you handle being naked in front of your kids?  Until recently I hadn’t really given the subject much thought.  When I take a shower, Eli plays in the bathroom.  That is how it has been since he was born.  He used to sit in his bouncer, but now  I usually bring in a few toys for him to play with… and he ignores them and unrolls all the toilet paper instead.  When I am finished with my shower, I get out, towel off, and get dressed.  He used to look at me and then go about his business hardly noticing I looked any different than usual.  In the past week or two, though, he has started to notice more.  He doesn’t just glance at me…he really looks.  And while it makes me a bit uncomfortable, I don’t think I am going to do anything differently.  At least not for a while.

Right now, it is out of necessity that he hangs out in the bathroom while I shower.  I can’t let him wander the house,  and I would rather not confine him in his crib or other baby jail.  For now, this is working.  Even though it is a little weird.   I think it is important for Eli to feel comfortable with me (and his dad) whether we are clothed, in bathing suits, or in the buff.  I hope that by not hiding, Eli will feel comfortable around us, and with himself.

I think seeing ‘real’ people in the nude is important.  Even if you don’t go looking for it, you can see half naked women and men in the windows of Victoria’s Secret and other advertisements.  Thank goodness I have seen my mother’s post baby body.  I knew what to expect, and wasn’t shocked when the stretch marks showed up.

But when does teaching ‘privacy’ come in to the picture?  Right now, Eli has no concept of that.  When was the last time you got to use the bathroom without interruption?  I remember a time when I was no longer comfortable taking a bath with my younger brother.  When Eli gets to that point, we will make sure to adjust so that he is comfortable.

Any tips from experienced Mammas?  Do you cover up in front of your kids?

 

 

 

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  • Julie says:

    I still don’t-and mine are 5 and 2! Actually, sometimes I do. I think you’re right-they should know what “real” bodies look like. However, I know there will come a time-in front of little brother, at least-that I won’t want the goods hanging out 😛

  • Wendy says:

    In some ways my kids are more private than they were, the boys both like privacy when they are in the restroom, but they still take a bath with their younger sister. They all know boys and girls are different, but I haven’t made a conscious effort to cover up. Although since.they are a little older they aren’t by my side all the time so I get a few more solo trips to the bathroom, yay!

  • Maggie says:

    I would have to agree with Julie. I’ve been known to hop in the bath with my kids. But my older one is a girl so….Daddy has always covered up in front of our daughter. when little brother tried to grab my nipples it was like whoa there! But he is so little I just name the body part, and redirect. I’m sure the she its coming to be more purposeful about covering up. will be interested to see what other people think!

  • Ashley says:

    Mine are both two young to care at this point. Isla is very inquisitive since I nurse Cole and I don’t hide it from her. She nursed until about 6 months so I think seeing it now is very new to her and she often pokes at me. I have showered with her and change in front of her often. It’s no big deal to me, but I know my husband feels weird about it. He’s bathed with Isla, but in his swimsuit. For now, Isla points at Cole’s parts and laughs during diaper changes. Hopefully that doesn’t continue… poor kid is going to have a complex.

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