How do you handle being naked in front of your kids? Until recently I hadn’t really given the subject much thought. When I take a shower, Eli plays in the bathroom. That is how it has been since he was born. He used to sit in his bouncer, but now I usually bring in a few toys for him to play with… and he ignores them and unrolls all the toilet paper instead. When I am finished with my shower, I get out, towel off, and get dressed. He used to look at me and then go about his business hardly noticing I looked any different than usual. In the past week or two, though, he has started to notice more. He doesn’t just glance at me…he really looks. And while it makes me a bit uncomfortable, I don’t think I am going to do anything differently. At least not for a while.
Right now, it is out of necessity that he hangs out in the bathroom while I shower. I can’t let him wander the house, and I would rather not confine him in his crib or other baby jail. For now, this is working. Even though it is a little weird. I think it is important for Eli to feel comfortable with me (and his dad) whether we are clothed, in bathing suits, or in the buff. I hope that by not hiding, Eli will feel comfortable around us, and with himself.
I think seeing ‘real’ people in the nude is important. Even if you don’t go looking for it, you can see half naked women and men in the windows of Victoria’s Secret and other advertisements. Thank goodness I have seen my mother’s post baby body. I knew what to expect, and wasn’t shocked when the stretch marks showed up.
But when does teaching ‘privacy’ come in to the picture? Right now, Eli has no concept of that. When was the last time you got to use the bathroom without interruption? I remember a time when I was no longer comfortable taking a bath with my younger brother. When Eli gets to that point, we will make sure to adjust so that he is comfortable.