My Pregnancy Obsession

Friday , 18, October 2013 12 Comments

Not pickles and peanut butter.  If you read this post, you know that I haven’t been craving much  during this pregnancy.  No, my obsession has not been food related.  One word can describe my pregnancy obsession: Gender.   Boy or girl.  Pink or blue…..Two boys or one of each.

My pregnancy obsession

Why the obsession with gender?  I’m not sure, really.  Before getting pregnant with #2 I would have told you that I wanted at least 3 children.  Since being pregnant this time, and feeling yucky 24 hours a day for the past 15 weeks, I have changed my tune a bit.  I have told my husband that if I start asking for a third child, he is to remind me of how I have felt these past 15 weeks.  It might sound selfish, and in the grand scheme of things, 15 weeks…16 weeks…2o weeks, whatever, isn’t that long when the reward is a bouncing bundle of joy.  So, we’ll see what happens,  but for now, I am dreaming of all of the fun stuff my cute little family of four will get to do together.  Still, what does this have to do with gender?

This might be our last child.  So, if it is a boy, I won’t have a daughter.  If it is a girl, I’ll have one of each.  Simple.  But until last week I don’t think I could honestly tell you which one I wanted to happen.  Part of me would love having a daughter, but another part of me thinks that two boys would be so fun!  Then, last Friday night we went to eat pizza at a friends house.

That friend had a couple friends over and the conversation naturally turned to our children and who is having how many, etc.  The friend said that her 4 year old daughter has been asking for a baby sister.  To which she replied ‘Well, we don’t get to choose what kind of baby we get.  God gives us the kind of baby he thinks our family needs.’   I don’t know that I have ever felt more convicted in my life.  It was definitely an ‘Ah-ha’ moment for me.   I had been so wrapped up in trying to decide what I wanted for my family that I had forgotten that it has already been perfectly planned out.  Yes, the baby is a boy or a girl, but it is so much more than that, and the best part is, I don’t have to decide anything.  Phew, thank goodness.  God has chosen this baby to be in our family because he/she is exactly the right fit for us.

So I think this post could also be titled ‘A lesson meant for a 4 year old that totally spoke to me’ or something of the sort.

I can truthfully say that I am completely at peace about the gender of this baby.  I am still really excited to find out WHAT it is, but when I do find out, I know I will be thrilled either way….because either way, it was meant to be!


Tell me about your kids.  Do you have all one gender, or both?  What do you like about your mixture of kiddos? 

Facebooktwittergoogle_pluspinterestby feather



  • Staci says:

    Well, I have 4 girls… and one son. After having my 1st daughter, I never worried much about gender. The health of the baby was foremost. Hope you have a happy, healthy pregnancy as you continue on!

  • Cara says:

    Personally I wanted a girl with all of my heart when it came to number 2, so much so I think I would have disappointed. But I love your friend’s statement that “God gives us the perfect choice for us”. I got my little girl and I honestly can’t see our family without her! Sending you happy healthy baby vibes!

  • I have one of each and they are almost 4 years apart. First is a girl, and I was very excited to find out the second would be a boy. I know I would have been happy either way, and our family feels complete now totaling 4. We didn’t know the gender for the first, but wanted to find out for the second. It was a great ride for both. Happy/healthy pregnancy vibes for the upcoming months!

  • I not religious in the least sense, but I do believe that the “gods” will put together what is right for your body and family. There is actual science behind what your body does and not just your husband – it’s really cool! I hope that you are overjoyed with your new baby!

  • At first I wanted 4 kids. Then I was lucky enough to have one of each (boy first, then girl). At which point I decided what I had was perfect and I didn’t need any more. Either way it goes, congratulations and much happiness.

  • Kecia says:

    I always wanted two children, one of each gender, preferably boy first. We had our son in 2010, and then I thought I was done. Pregnancy wasn’t something I wanted to experience again. When our son turned 2, I started wanting another one. We got pregnant in April of this year and I secretly hoped for another boy.

    Gone were my desires to have one of each – there are too many girls in the family that made me hope we had another boy! I’m getting my wish and my family will be completely done when he arrives in December.

    I tell my husband the same thing you do — if I ever remotely mention a third child, to remind me of the unpleasant issues that come with pregnancy! 🙂

  • Mariah says:

    I am 10 days shy of my due date with #2. And I have always been set on two kids. But I really wanted one of each. So finding out the gender of #2 was definitely a pregnancy obsession this time. While I would have been happy with either, I am thrilled to say we’re having a little girl!

  • Megan Silker says:

    We currently have two boys, ages 5 and 2 years old and we are pregnant with our third. I thought for sure this baby was a girl, because we have two boys, so it has to be a girl! Turns out, we are having a third boy. I will honestly say I was totally disappointed, but I had this same thought as this wide 4 year old. God gave us another boy for a reason 🙂 each child is a blessing from God- boy or girl. We are very excited to meet this little guy in a few months!

  • Megan Silker says:

    wise! Not wide 🙂

  • I know exactly how you felt – I did end up having one of each, but I desperately wanted a girl. If baby #2 was a boy (as was my first), I probably would have tried for a third. But now it all seems so insignificant…I want healthy, and thankfully they both were.

    I wish you the best of luck, and hope that you start feeling better soon!

  • Debi says:

    I never cared much about gender, until my last. Hubby cared from day 1 with our first. For me, at the end I would have loved having 2 of each, but it wasn’t a huge deal. I can see how you think about it a lot.

  • I have one of each and I like it so much that way!

  • Please give us your valuable comment