I’ll be honest, I did not feel like a mom when we brought Eli home 3 months ago. In fact, I felt very lost. The day he came home from the hospital, I remember my husband setting down his car seat and I thought ‘Now What’? Then I walked around the house from room to room, not knowing what to do with myself. Things were different because of the little package we brought home with us and I didn’t quite know what to do!
The first time I ventured out of the house by myself, I asked a friend to meet me at the grocery store. The thought of getting Eli out of the car, into the grocery store, and back out with a cart full of groceries was a little overwhelming. What if there wasn’t a parking spot near the cart corral in the parking lot? Would the car seat fit in the cart safely? What if he started crying while we were in the store? I needed her there for moral support if nothing else.
I had no idea what to do about a ‘schedule’. Eli slept and ate a lot, but was I supposed to put him in his crib when he slept during the day? I had heard that different cries meant different things…..but they all sounded the same to me.
Fast forward 3 months–
I read somewhere that it takes about 3 months to get into a routine after bringing home baby. I would have to agree. I am still learning what works best for us. Some days are better than others, of course, but for the most part, we have a pretty good groove going.
Now, we venture out of the house on most days, and I don’t have to have anyone meet us at our destinations. When Eli cries I know whether it means he is hungry or tired. He takes a long nap in the morning, and a shorter one in the afternoon. I can bathe him, dress him and feed him much more confidently than at first. It is pretty amazing how much I have learned in the past 3 months.
The coolest part, though, is that I am not the only one who has learned something……When Eli looks at me he knows I am his Mom!