We have asked our Contributors to answer a few questions about themselves. Today, Wendy takes a few moments to share her answers with us.
1. When did you become a Mommy, how has it changed your life?
I became a mom for the first time in 2006, for the second time in 2007 and for the third time in 2009. When my first child was born I went through an adjustment period. I had been working full time, we had been married 10 years and I thought I was prepared, but I was wrong. I was exhausted when we came home from the hospital due to a long labor that finally resulted in a C-section, add on the demands of a newborn, the stress of being a new mom and figuring out our roles as parents makes for a stressful beginning for a family. Once we got the bumps smoothed out I was amazed that I could care for and love another person so completely. From changing icky diapers and enduring learning how to breastfeed to seeing that first smile, hearing that first laugh and realizing that now we are a family, every single aspect of my life has been changed and transformed in this journey of motherhood.
2. What would your children say is your best quality….and your worst quality?
I think the answer may be the same: consistency/rules. As I was tucking in my oldest for bed the other night he pointed out how I do the same things everyday and how we do the same things each night at bedtime. I asked him if he liked that we always do the same things at bedtime and he said yes, that bedtime is his favorite time of day. Of course I was glad to hear that he was comforted by the consistency in his life, but I also thought of just a few weeks ago when he told me I had more rules than the teachers at school! He has told me since he was in pre-k that he didn’t like to follow all the rules the teachers had, in his world having all those rules makes life difficult. So while being consistent with all my rules may make them unhappy sometimes, it will comfort them in the long run.
3. What is the most difficult thing about being a Mom? Most rewarding?
One of the most difficult things about being a Mom is to remember to take time for myself and for my husband. I have found that I not only put myself on the back burner, but also do the same with my husband. Keeping our marriage strong and taking time away to be a couple is good for us and the kids. (For some date night ideas check out our Contributor Corner!) The most rewarding thing about being a Mom is knowing I am making a difference in my children’s lives everyday. When my second child was very sick with the flu and he thanked me for taking care of him it was a moment of validation and encouragement for me as a mother.
4. What is your favorite Mommy tool?
My favorite Mommy tool has to be the tried and true “Good Behavior Chart”. This website has some great printable behavior charts. For me it is a simple way to keep track of three kid’s behavior and is very adaptable. Whenever a behavior seems to be taking root that needs to change I make a Behavior Chart. The kids earn a sticker for each day that there has not been a time-out for the unwanted behavior. After a predetermined number of days, usually at least seven, the kids get their reward. The reward can also be adapted to the situation. It may be a family outing, family movie night or the kids might get to pick out a new toy.
5. What are you looking forward to this summer?
This summer I am looking forward to having more family time. A more relaxed schedule will allow for more family meals and outings. Right now the only plans we have are for Bible School, and I’m sure we’ll be visiting relatives over the summer, but I’m looking forward to just slowing down for a couple months and enjoying the fun!by