Meet Jamie, newest PSMB contributor and self proclaimed ‘Mama on the far side of childhood’.
1. When did you become a mommy and how has it changed your life?
I became a Mommy three weeks before I turned 35, after being married for eleven years. My daughter, Brittany, a third year law student, will be 24 in November. My son, Blake, 22, is a senior in college.
When I became a mother, it added new dimensions to every part of my life. From the time I was a child, I wanted to be a stay-at-home-mother. Motherhood showed me how much I value family and tradition, and it made me want to share those things with others. Due to many factors, including health issues and difficulty getting pregnant, I was able to have a career before I had children. I was blessed to have been able to enjoy the best of both worlds—working and staying at home with my children.
At 58, I am probably closer to the age of many younger mom’s parents—or grandparents! Some of my classmates have grandchildren the age of my children.
For those of you who had children a little later, I hope it will inspire you that my children have kept me young! My husband and I are more active, and more involved with our children, than the majority of our friends!
2. What would your children say are your best qualities….and your worst?
I asked my kids. My son immediately said, “Your best are your caring, compassion and willingness to serve others. (Political science major!) When I asked, “What is my worst quality?” He responded that he didn’t know. (Cop out!) When I pressed, he said, “You’re annoying! That’s a pretty general Mom thing.”
I asked my daughter. I think her initial response utilized her law school training, “What do you think I’ll say?” she asked. I told her that I wanted HER opinion. She said she had to think about it and get back to me. A little later, she came back to me, hugged me and said my best quality is that I am always available for her. Then, she diplomatically said my worst quality is that I don’t know much about horses and horse shows.
3. What is the most difficult thing about being a mom? Most rewarding?
The most difficult thing about being a mother is watching your children when they are hurting, or doing dangerous things! We went through a terrible year in middle school when my daughter was bullied. (I may write more about that later!)
Also, my daughter is a competitive Hunter Jumper equestrian, and my son plays football. The inherent dangers of those sports make it hard to enjoy watching them!
By far the most rewarding thing about my being a mother at this stage, is the relationship I now have with my adult children and their friends. I’m at the point where all the effort we put into rearing our children is paying off! My husband and I are able to enjoy our kids on more of an adult level. However, it seems that no matter how old your children get they still want Mama to cook, clean, sew, give them money, and take care of them when they are sick! (And, I love it!)
4. What is your favorite mommy tool?
Food! It is my all-purpose answer to most situations! Foods can serve as medicine, rewards, sustenance, peace-treaties, and instant celebrations! Food helps create great traditions and memories–good and bad! I wrote about my best, and worst, pancake memories here.
5. What are you looking forward to this fall?
I am already looking forward to the Christmas holidays and spending time with my kids during their school breaks—when they aren’t stressing over homework and exams.
I am also looking forward to getting to know more Peach State Moms! I would love to answer any questions you may have for a “Mama on the Far Side of Childhood.”