Back to Work (Don’t Be Afraid)

Wednesday , 22, January 2014 1 Comment

Almost three years ago, my husband and I made the decision for me to stay at home with our children. It was a decision we thought long and hard about, a decision that I will never regret. I have enjoyed a wonderful balance by working from home while taking care of our children, but constant reevaluation of our situation has led to another big decision: I am going back to work.

Back to work

A recent post by Jennifer Pinarski on the Today’s Parent blog shared 6 things no one tells moms about going back to work. I’ll check back later this year to let you know how true these are for me, but they make a lot of sense!  The ones that stood out to me were:

  • You’ll feel like you gave up on your kids (Yeah, this one stings a little.)
  • Your new employer won’t care that you were a stay-at-home parent (Touché!)
  • Your house will be cleaner (Really? I could live with that.)
  • You will have to re-learn to talk to adults (Whatever do you mean? Actually, I know exactly what you mean.)

I enjoyed reading Pinarski’s post because it comforted me to read about someone who had successfully made this transition. The fact is that right now I am really, really scared about this upcoming change.

So, what am I so afraid of?

First and foremost, I will not be able to be as involved in my children’s daily activities. Right now, I am with my youngest pretty much all.the.time (although she does go to her grandparents’ house each Wednesday). I frequently volunteer in my kindergarten daughter’s classroom, and I am a leader in her Girl Scout troop. Basically, how am I going to let go of control?

Secondly, there’s the will-I-find-a-job fear. More specifically, will I find the RIGHT job? This could be its own blog post, but I won’t digress on this point.

The most concise way to communicate the fear I am experiencing is the fear of CHANGE. Change is hard, but I have made major changes like this before, so I’m pretty sure I will survive.

Amidst the fear and anxieties is a fair amount of excitement. It’s a new adventure. A new challenge. I can do this, and I can be great at it. In the meantime I’m going to enjoy every moment of my SAHM-dom (in between resume-updating and job-searching, of course). I keep reminding myself of one of my favorite quotes by Sheryl Sandberg (who I am a big fan of): “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”

So, I guess I am going to go do it.

I would love to hear from those of you that have made or will be making this transition. Do you have any advice to share?

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