Baby Fever– Or not!

Friday , 14, December 2012 5 Comments

I’ll admit it {because my husband probably won’t read this}. I have been ‘ready’ for baby #2 since Eli was about 6 months old.  Of course there are those days that I am soooo happy to NOT be pregnant, sleep deprived (Eli still doesn’t sleep through the night most of the time) dealing with nausea AND a cranky one year old.  But for the most part, I know I want more kid(s) and I also know I would like my children to be fairly close in age….That is until I had a realization last week.

Saturday night, I agreed to watch Kristin’s little man, and after that experience, I can say that I am not quite as ready for baby # 2 as I thought.  Cooper was great.  He was happy and well behaved.  I enjoyed having him around.  No, It wasn’t the amount of work that it took to take care of two kids that bothered me.  I know that two children will be more work than one.  I will get less sleep, change more diapers, have more laundry, and less time to spend doing all the things I NEED to get done to feel sane each day. That part I am fully expecting.  There were, however, two things I noticed about caring for two kids that surprised me.

First, the amount of time I spent with my husband that afternoon/evening was practically non existent.  He entertained Eli while I took care of Cooper and our paths didn’t even cross that much.  I just never really thought about the fact that taking care of 2 kids means less time for Mom and Dad to converse.  I guess I knew that date nights get harder and harder to carry out, but I didn’t think about the day to day being cut shorter as well.  I am not ready for our only conversation time to be as our heads hit the pillow each night.

The other thing I noticed (along the same lines, actually) is that most of my efforts were focused on Cooper, and not on Eli.  I think it is common for the Dad to spend more time with the older child.  Especially if Mom is nursing the baby, she spends much more time taking care of him/her.  I realized that I am not ready to divide my time and attention between kids.  I missed spending time with my Eli.

I know that Hubby and I will have to work on the balance of more than one kid, and spending enough time with each other.  I also know that I am going to have to divide my time between my children someday.  I have a history of wishing away the present by focusing too much on the future.  This was a nice reminder for me to focus on TODAY, and enjoy the moments we have right now.  I am looking forward to expanding our family, but maybe not as soon as I was thinking…..and that is OK!    But I’ll keep ‘pinning’ the adorable ‘we’re expecting’ announcements, because you can never be too prepared!

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  • Wendy says:

    Loved reading this, you’re right, expanding your family is an adjustment in a lot of ways, but I can say that expanding your family also increases the love and when you see your two (or more) kids together, loving each other, it’s all worth it!

  • Maggie says:

    Whatever the timing is it will probably be perfect for you. And honestly, that’s the sort of stuff you just have to learn in the job! Enjoy your one baby! My friend told me watching your only become the older is a blessing too!

  • Jamie says:

    If you want two kids fairly close together, you just have to jump in! Don’t try to imagine how you think things will be. Don’t worry about what could possibly be negative or go wrong. Don’t second guess your desire to have kids fairly close together. As Nike says, “Just Do It!” You’ll adjust and be fine! AND, remember, the diapers and potty training, and all the other demands of babies will all be over in a shorter time span! You’ll be fine!

  • Rachel says:

    Thanks for the input, ladies! I guess my plan is to play it by ear and enjoy each day as it comes!

  • Julie says:

    At first I thought this was going to be a story about when you came to my house and saw the crazy that can ensue! haha!

    It’s hard getting adjusted to having two kids. Harder than I thought it would be!

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