I am always running late or in a hurry. It seems like everywhere I go, I’m either right on time with zero seconds to spare or I’m late (this is more the norm). This drives my husband crazy. He has a military background and he tells me, “If you’re not 15 minutes early, then you’re late.” I realized that I needed to change this habit when I came across the famous “Good Samaritan” study by Darley and Batson while searching the internet one day for something else. The study was to see who would help someone in need – the people who are running late, the people who had just enough time to get to their destination, or the people that have extra time to spare before reaching their destination. The result was that 63% of those people who had plenty of time to reach their destination stopped to help someone in need, 45% of the people who had just enough time to get to their destination stopped to help the person in need, and only 10% of the people in a hurry stopped to help the person in need.
It suddenly hit me that this little habit is keeping me from being the type of mom I want to be. The study was conducted by using a person in need of help as the distraction. Applying it to parenting, kids are often in need of help. And when I’m in a hurry, I’m often so caught up in getting things ready to get someplace on time that I’m not pay attention to what my kids are saying to me, asking me, or even doing. I don’t want to be so preoccupied in my thoughts on how to get someplace on time that I’m ignoring my kids or snapping at them in the process. They may need help putting on their shoes, or finding their lovie, or even just wanted to give me a hug and tell me they love me. I don’t want to miss or dismiss any of that because I’m the one who is at fault for letting the time slip away. I think trying my best to not be in a hurry so often is one of the things I can change that can help me be a better parent to my kids. This will make my husband happy too.by